Stacy Towles is an incredibly talented woman and entrepreneur. She has worked in non-profits, the tech industry and most recently has dived into the wide world of veganism. Have a listen as she talks about her journey from the corporate life to following her dreams and becoming a chef.
We have been busy little bees over here nursing our newest brainchild Dream Broad Magazine and took a step back from the blog for bit. Don’t worry folks, the Blooming Dreamers are still here, still creating content and sharing our stories. We are so grateful for all the hard work and recognition from our friends, family and extended communities. This magazine has been in the making for quite some time but catapulted this year and we are so grateful!
We hosted our launch party on June 8th at Broad Room in Sacramento and we have been floating on good vibes ever since. At the launch we sold our entire inventory of printed zines and are looking forward to the next round of sales so follow @dreambroadzine on Instagram for info on how to snag a copy of your own!
Until next time…
Josiah Gonzales, Featured Dreamer and avid renaissance man. If anyone knows how to chase dreams and tackle them down, it’s this guy. Blessed are we to be the ones he embeds his big brother wisdom on. Glad are we that he is our first male dreamer. As a designer of all things in his life – Josiah gives us a personal look into his cool demeanor and how he’s taken charge of the things he loves.
Maker and Creative – heart, mind, and soul. Akilah Interviews her Co-Founding Bestie of Blooming Dreamers on her dreams and passions. Owner of Lebasi Photography, Isabel Gonzales shares her love for capturing photos through Environmental Portraiture and what she wants people to know about her relationship to her craft. Click the link below and follow us on SoundCloud.
I initially saw this post representing some form of expertise, citing intellectual science papers and well known psychologist. However, I think we have all had enough of the over complication of this phenomenon. We hear the words a lot these days, even though the term was coined well over 40 years ago by mental health practitioners – it comes up almost everyday like it was introduced a short time ago. Impostor Syndrome has everything to do with self and what’s happening on the inside. Or is it really that simple?
Arguably, the conditions in which this particular syndrome develops in a human being is spread wide across the spectrum. Therefore, making it damn near impossible for someone to quickly identify the simple fact that they may have feelings around being undeserving of the success they experience. These ideas lead me to share some personal feelings on what that looks like and how I navigate that uncomfortable space.
For such a long time I let people and circumstances decide what I was capable of doing. I’m not entirely sure how I molded my thinking, but I’m sure it started in the 4th grade. Being ranked against school mates, meaningless testing, introduction of puberty, the divide of the ‘who’s who’ on the playground that has now become a platform for observing differences; really I can go on. All of these things have to do with a lovely feeling of confidence.
I was never short of extracurriculars on the schedule. Band, volleyball, cheerleading, art and dance we’re apart of my life for over a decade. I loved being a part of them but sometimes, it was a bit hard. I’m a firm believer that representation matters, when we don’t see a lot of people that look like us, or aren’t accepted by many people that meet those same qualifications – things sometimes feel a little bit lonely. Confidence in these instances, lacks a bit. Sometimes it’s over compensated with a false confidence leading people to believe you’re fine when really, you need the ear of someone who understands your challenges and who holds your hand through them.
This is where college got fun. All that life experience boosted me, my connections with people and new ideas were forming and I was really excited about them. I found what I loved most in this phase of my life – psychology, philanthropy, journalism and business. I honestly thought to myself – “This is impossible, no one likes all of these things.” I had a passion for them that conflicted with the model of 1 major, 1 minor or at most a double major. I convinced myself that my goals were unrealistic and therefore I was confused and lost. I gave up here.
I would love to write fast forward here, but there is too much juice so I’ll keep it short. A career choice I would learn later to be not at all in line with any of my loves, a marriage to my best friend, some devastating life events; all lead me back to face myself and inspired me to live wholly and outright. I started emerging myself in all my true loves again in the name of self-care; psychology, philanthropy, journalism and business. Reading books, discovering new ways to make myself happy, meeting new people, conversing and sharing common interest. I, in short was developing in all areas I held near and dear. The time came where Isabel and I were discussing what we wanted from life again and then came Blooming Dreamers. From there we developed relationships and aligned ourselves with peers and mentors who were in these same fields. Without saying it, we were molding our expertise.
Reality check; how in the world can I look at myself as someone suffering from impostor syndrome when I am doing all of the things it would take for me to become well versed in becoming an expert? Maybe it’s the social media culture we live in or the performance appraisal hysteria we face around this time of year. Either way we were raised to seek out validation. Some of us I might even reach to say, I heard the words impostor syndrome and made up an excuse as to why we just weren’t doing well in life. Let us not fall victim to the placebo effect, or read our ways out of following our dreams.
My goal is to always be constructive and productive. To read up on things that will educate me in all my endeavors. To reach out and embrace new experiences. To live like this is my shot and I’m going for it. In order for me or any of you to move through paralysis, we have to reframe our thought processes by finding new ways to approach challenges. Finding circles that support my dreams and goals has been absolutely crucial in showing me that anything is possible.
If you want more fascinating info in an extremely tasteful and informative perspective, check out Matt O’ Keefe’s take here:
With that, I wish us all the best success and I cannot wait to hear your stories of how you conquered your fears of success.
Here at Blooming Dreamers once a month we like to showcase people in our community who are sharing their love and their light through their work. For the month of February, Black History Month, it is our privilege to introduce you to a longtime friend, a woman for the people, Eryn Reeder. Have a listen as we discuss her journey becoming a therapist, her unique perspectives on mental health maintenance and self-care.
While we have been stumbling around trying to build a brand. These broads had it all figured out. So figured out, that they had the perfectly designed outlet for our first big project as Blooming Dreamers. Welcoming us with open arms and providing a space for our creativity was generous, we really couldn’t ask for much more! But it just so happened that the Universe saw fit that we all connect on an even greater level.
Amateurs could never do this well interviewing without such a duo to highlight. Claire and Shevaun are your next girl crushes. From humble beginnings to shared success; we cover it all. Snag the earphones so you don’t miss a beat.
As we’ve mentioned before, one of our missions is to bring together people in an effort to build community. The Blooming Dreamers are launching off our ‘Featured Dreamers’ section with us as the guinea pigs. This was a lot of fun and a huge learning experience. We are already scheduling interviews and fine tuning our platform so that we can bring you pure quality interactions once a month. Stay tuned, please enjoy the read. We may even get some vlog bloopers up for your entertainment.
Akilah: What is something you wish older generations did with or for you?
Isabel: Whew, teach me how to manage money. Granted, my older generations weren’t taught much; we know the economy has changed but you know they did what they could. They didn’t teach me enough.
Both ladies sip their PBR simultaneously *
I: What about you?
A: Okay, well I would love to say that they paved the way for me but I felt a little lost along the way. Not only with finances but school, friendships, family relationships, and business. Now that I’m a mom, I do get help – I just wish the things with motherhood were more openly discussed with people other than your gyno and your girlfriends.
I: Oh ya! Seriously. Next question, where do you see your project and your company in the next 5 years?
A: Where do I start?! EVERYWHERE! I’m serious when I say, this is for us and everyone around us. Right now, I have the energy to take on the world. I don’t just want to be a blog and an Instagram account. That is stupid. I want to provide a service, embrace people and love on them. I may be a product of the Bay but I grew up here in Sacramento and this is the education system I came from. I’m giving back. Where do you see us?
I: I see us building this amazing community, which is pretty small right now. And a lot of you out there don’t even know you are apart of this. I think potentially we will have a space that feeds the minds and the souls of everybody, not just the women. Families, men, kids, everybody. I’m ready for the next one.
A: How does/did not having a sacred space affect your well being?
I: I have a personal anecdote. Back when I started dating Neko, I did not have a place to call my own. I had to put all my stuff in storage and I ended up crashing on Neko’s bed. For 7 months, I could not find a place to live! I finally found one, moved out for 5 months and only to move back in, again.
A: Were you trying or were you snuggling?
I: Both. But in that process, I realized I didn’t have a space to call home. I lived out of a back and everything I would have surrounded myself with to make it feel more like home was in a storage unit. It was depressing. It’s discouraging but it makes you push harder.
A: I don’t have a sacred space. I guess my sacred space is in my car, where my music is. It’s taxing I find I lash out when I’ve hit my brink, or I pack up all my stuff and run away but not for long because I have a 2 ½-year-old. I take on everyone’s problems if I can and then I find my allegorical suitcase is full of things that do not serve me. I feel like having that space would help me; tidy up, release and breathe. I’m working on it.
I: I like it. How do you exercise self preservation?
A: We just loaded that one. We don’t have any self preservation!
Isabel is bent over laughing at this point. Now we are both drummed up into a maniacal hysteria*
I: Drinking this beer, using this camera. Going inward.
A: Okay, I loc’d my hair. That’s self-preservation. My tattoos. My painted toenails.
Shows off her painted nails*
I: Christmas Colors!
A: We are exercising being grateful right now.
I: What is your greatest tool to help you tune into your higher frequencies?
A: Easy, large bodies of water that I can dunk my head in. I like to swim. If you know my son’s name, you would know how much I love water.
I: I do two things. 1 – I travel, it helps me reset. I come back Zen’d out whether its a day trip or another country.
A: That’s a big tool. Nice.
I: The other thing I do, going inward once again – I do card readings, cleanse my crystals and burn some incense.
A: You had good answers, mine was very short to the point and get out of my face.
I: But you knew your answer and I had to think about mine. Ready?
A: Yup, Last one! Where is self-care in your schedule? And what do you do?
I: Once a year, I get a tattoo. I would show you the last one, but then I’d have to take my pants off. They are the ultimate collaging of life experiences.
A: Yeah, we’re totem poles.
I: Also, when I’m riding my bike – I’m listening to music, looking at trees and singing my heart out even though I can’t breathe.
A: It almost eliminated itself out but, whenever I have time. I journal. One of the things that I’ve told myself – use the pretty things. I have to tell myself to do this because I will not use these things. I think what I am writing or what I have to say needs to be perfect in order to do so. But, I’m really wrong in my thought process.
I: This is us signing off.
What’s up Dreamers!
We put together a special video for you guys for the holiday season with a guided journal question to get you thinking about the new year. We hope you enjoy it, get a laugh or two, and then go spend time with your loved ones.
Please share your responses to the journal question in the comments below. We’d love to hear from you guys!
This is us signing off so Merry Christmas to you and yours from us here at Blooming Dreamers!! ✌🏽❤️
(Journal question found at forbes.com)
It’s time to collaborate with someone when you are amazed by one another’s genius. There’s a lot of ground to cover and on that journey, beautiful, amazing things will happen. Whether it’s a vacation, cooking for your families, resting on the beach or working together on life-changing contributions, it takes labors of love to fulfill these experiences. So what else would the end result be, if not serendipitous?
We are soul sisters who met through an unlikely love affair that occurred on a small island of the Pacific coast. Just kidding, it was not as scandalous a story – we had a friend we shared in common. Our journey began bussing the number 51 from the neighborhood and landing at our first jobs together – which shall remain nameless since they did us no favors.
The rest was beautiful history and now we are manifesting destiny.
Through thoughtful words and vivid imagery, we are researching what it takes to care for your body inside and out; all so you can find restorative therapy in getting back to the basics of healing and growing.
Akilah & Isabel