Authentically Aligned Synchronicity

Let’s talk about building your entire self up organically; or what I also refer to as, “doing the work”. This is a practice, a practice of raw radical self-care that doesn’t come in the form of external gratification(or maybe sometimes it does but let’s focus on the soul). These are ideas that can sometimes be painful to explore. We tend to go through life shielding, escaping and evading. Avoiding all the truths we have to endure to find out what we stand for.

Discovering who you are and what footprint you want to leave in your community is crucial to finding your voice. We can chose to follow the beaten path and be left with the sad truth that we have not become familiar with the person that matters most in our lives, self. We see it everyday in social media or even in day to day interactions as we repost and share ideas that were presented to us but never taking the time to develop and assess what those ideas mean to us.

One of the best ways to start this process is by evaluating your own ideas and how they support you in your journey of creativity. From the very beginning of our thoughtful selves, it is the basis of imagination that shows us what things are possible through the most inventive ways of play. Teaching us how to solve problems, reflect on bigger and better possibilities; the driving forces in helping us to create over and over again an absolutely fulfilling life. Now does it make sense why your parents were hell bent on asking “how could you be bored!?” We are responsible for the light we bring to our own lives.

Our own imaginations are what builds our authenticity. It is the place in our minds where dreams exist in the most magical way. Only we can bring the moments to fruition. This is what makes us endearingly unique. We shouldn’t shy away from sharing that very eccentric part of us. It absolutely saddens me when I hear people say “ I don’t have a creative bone in my body”. I will forever believe this to be a lie. If we consistently compare ourselves to others, and their own ideas of what makes them special – we’ve already lost because we had the audacity to measure our own successes based on someone else’s blue print that we had absolutely nothing to do with. Authenticity starts and ends from within.

How do we support our own growth journeys as we start to bridge them with others? That my friends is alignment. A person who understands who they are, tends to make better decisions on who they come into agreement with. Whether it be in a friendship, intimate partnership, or business relationship. After all, how can one decide what’s best for them if they can’t offer that same reflection with self? It can be a difficult task to stay true to your own ethos; especially in such a comparative time. We all want to know what the next person is doing, just maybe they got it right better than all of us. W R O N G. They got it right for themselves. Then. And only then my friends, did their lives seemingly fall into a better alignment with their surroundings. You gotta do, what’s right for you.

Now. Let’s talk about the magic of synchronicity! I want to share a little anecdote of Isabel’s and my day last weekend:

It started off as a somewhat rough morning. Dealing with personal affairs and coming to the conclusion that we were losing steam with our ventures. No real motivation was coming to the surface. That didn’t stop us from setting out on our morning meet and great with someone we had been admiring and decided to approach about being apart of Dream Broad. What an experience! We had an amazing exchange, filled with hope, support and all of the gems we needed to push us into the next part of our day where we were going to be vending at the Sac Library downtown. We decided to stop off for coffee. Lowe and behold we run into another familiar face who’s divine purpose was to encourage us and give us all the props for what we have been doing. Primarily telling us, do not quit. Keep going. Off we went. At the event, we had a visit from one of our community sisters that was truly inspiring and encouraging. Out of that interaction came ideas for our next 2 events. Our day and hearts were completely full.

Keep thugin’ it out family. Take the time to build a relationship with yourself, so you can have stronger relationships in your community. It will lead to a purposeful life.

Vintage Skills

Although I am well acquainted in practice, I never heard the phrase until a few months ago as we were in the fetal stages of creating this blog. Vintage skills can be broken down into three general categories: home/life, first aid, and outdoor survival. I’d like to think I’m an expert at all three, but I thrive in the first set of skills courtesy of my mother.

Let me paint you a picture; it’s the 1970s, my parents were hippies, sporting their patchwork denim, tending to the garden, building their own furniture and eating homemade granola. My dad was great with cars and carpentry and my mom sewed clothes for all my siblings. My parents are makers by passion, not necessarily by trade, but passed down the love for working with my hands.

My generation didn’t get to take home ec as an elective in school (in Sacramento, CA) but turns out I didn’t need to. Ever since I was a little girl my mom taught me everything she knows. Of course some things stuck like crocheting and jewelry making and some dissipated like piano lessons. But the underlying commonality among all the skills I have acquired since then is the joy I find in the hand-made process. I thrive on complex instructions, minute details and hours upon hours of repetition to create a tiny masterpiece. 

I eventually learned how to teach myself to fix things that were broken, study how things work and ultimately create less waste by upcycling old clothing or repurposing discarded objects. As for my survival skills, I know which way is north because my mom always quizzed me on road trips where I had to use the Thomas map book instead of watching an in car DVD player. These are life skills I don’t take for granted because they paved the way for a life filled with the desire to learn. 

Here at Blooming Dreamers we find vintage skills to be an essential part of our foundation. It is rewarding not only to learn something new but to teach each other as well. Sharing knowledge is just one more way we can fortify and uplift our community, enriching the minds and lives of the next generation and sometimes an older one. If you have a vintage skill you’d like to share, comment below or tag us on Instagram @bloomingdreamers. Sharing is caring folks, especially when it’s hand-made!

 

Ground Zero: We Forsee Magical Growth

Founding Mothers

As we’ve mentioned before, one of our missions is to bring together people in an effort to build community. The Blooming Dreamers are launching off our ‘Featured Dreamers’ section with us as the guinea pigs. This was a lot of fun and a huge learning experience. We are already scheduling interviews and fine tuning our platform so that we can bring you pure quality interactions once a month. Stay tuned, please enjoy the read. We may even get some vlog bloopers up for your entertainment.


Akilah: What is something you wish older generations did with or for you?

Isabel: Whew, teach me how to manage money.  Granted, my older generations weren’t taught much; we know the economy has changed but you know they did what they could. They didn’t teach me enough.

Both ladies sip their  PBR simultaneously *

I: What about you?

A: Okay, well I would love to say that they paved the way for me but I felt a little lost along the way. Not only with finances but school, friendships, family relationships, and business. Now that I’m a mom, I do get help – I just wish the things with motherhood were more openly discussed with people other than your gyno and your girlfriends.

I: Oh ya! Seriously. Next question, where do you see your project and your company in the next 5 years?

A: Where do I start?! EVERYWHERE! I’m serious when I say, this is for us and everyone around us. Right now, I have the energy to take on the world. I don’t just want to be a blog and an Instagram account. That is stupid. I want to provide a service, embrace people and love on them. I may be a product of the Bay but I grew up here in Sacramento and this is the education system I came from. I’m giving back. Where do you see us?

I: I see us building this amazing community, which is pretty small right now. And a lot of you out there don’t even know you are apart of this. I think potentially we will have a space that feeds the minds and the souls of everybody, not just the women. Families, men, kids, everybody. I’m ready for the next one.

A: How does/did not having a sacred space affect your well being?

I: I have a personal anecdote. Back when I started dating Neko, I did not have a place to call my own. I had to put all my stuff in storage and I ended up crashing on Neko’s bed. For 7 months, I could not find a place to live! I finally found one, moved out for 5 months and only to move back in, again.

A: Were you trying or were you snuggling?

I: Both. But in that process, I realized I didn’t have a space to call home. I lived out of a back and everything I would have surrounded myself with to make it feel more like home was in a storage unit. It was depressing. It’s discouraging but it makes you push harder.

A: I don’t have a sacred space. I guess my sacred space is in my car, where my music is. It’s taxing I find I lash out when I’ve hit my brink, or I pack up all my stuff and run away but not for long because I have a 2 ½-year-old. I take on everyone’s problems if I can and then I find my allegorical suitcase is full of things that do not serve me.  I feel like having that space would help me; tidy up, release and breathe. I’m working on it.

I: I like it. How do you exercise self preservation?

A: We just loaded that one. We don’t have any self preservation!

Isabel is bent over laughing at this point. Now we are both drummed up into a maniacal hysteria*

I: Drinking this beer, using this camera. Going inward.

A: Okay, I loc’d my hair. That’s self-preservation. My tattoos. My painted toenails.

I: OOOO.

Shows off her painted nails*

I: Christmas Colors!

A: We are exercising being grateful right now.

I: What is your greatest tool to help you tune into your higher frequencies?

A: Easy, large bodies of water that I can dunk my head in. I like to swim. If you know my son’s name, you would know how much I love water.

I: I do two things. 1 – I travel, it helps me reset. I come back Zen’d out whether its a day trip or another country.

A: That’s a big tool. Nice.

I: The other thing I do, going inward once again – I do card readings, cleanse my crystals and burn some incense.

A: You had good answers, mine was very short to the point and get out of my face.

I: But you knew your answer and I had to think about mine. Ready?

A: Yup, Last one! Where is self-care in your schedule? And what do you do?

I: Once a year, I get a tattoo. I would show you the last one, but then I’d have to take my pants off. They are the ultimate collaging of life experiences.

A: Yeah, we’re totem poles.

I: Also, when I’m riding my bike – I’m listening to music, looking at trees and singing my heart out even though I can’t breathe.

A: It almost eliminated itself out but, whenever I have time. I journal. One of the things that I’ve told myself – use the pretty things. I have to tell myself to do this because I will not use these things. I think what I am writing or what I have to say needs to be perfect in order to do so.  But, I’m really wrong in my thought process.

I: This is us signing off.

A: Salud.